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I am really starting to have a hard time at work, because I have a huge crush on my boss. He's not much older than I am, and he's talented and funny and smart and kind. We work together pretty closely, so we are good friends too, or at least very friendly. We talk about non-work stuff often and have socialized together too (albeit not in a date-like or romantic way, just with other people from work, and he invited us all to his Christmas party, and once or twice we've gone out for drinks at the end of a long hard week). I've been at the job for about 18 months and I have really noticed my feelings for him developing over the past 6 months or so, particularly. We are both single, as well...

Other than the obvious complications, I'm in a quandary b/c I really love my job (and would, I think, even if he weren't my boss anymore). It's also a great opportunity for me career wise, and I have a lot of potential for advancement. I don't think there is anyplace else in my city that would be as perfect a fit for me. So I don't want to leave the job in order to date my boss. But I don't think dating him while he's still my boss is a good idea, either, and of course I can't ask him to change jobs. LOL. Anyone have any advice for me? or been in a similar situation, and if so how did you resolve it?..

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from hugnkiss

(30-somethingfemale)

Hmm. I do have a friend who had a major crush on her boss. They went out to lunch, and out for drinks, and they went on business trips together. But, in her situation the boyfriend she was thinking about dumping for the aforementioned boss stepped it up a notch (got jealous of the boss I think) and the boss ended up dating someone else, and then they both got laid off because the company tanked. So, that's her story. It is odd to date your boss. It really depends on what you do. Some law firms have a "love contract" you have to sign and disclose your relationship before it progresses. He could really get in trouble for asking you out (sexual harassment issues, etc.). ..
Another friend of mine dated her boss, and when it didn't work out -- she had to get a new job at a new company. It was really awful for her...
I'm betting you spend a lot of time at work. Maybe you haven't looked around too much outside the office. See if there's someone else who gets your heart started in the same way...

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