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Marriage Questions
from anonymous5 answersMy boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over four years now. Everything...show more
is great, we have the usual problems but nothing too serious, and all signs point to our getting married someday. He has talked about it, and we talk sometimes about having a family, and all that. But he's never gotten specific, and I've fallen into the trap of hoping and expecting a ring and/or proposal at every major gift-giving occasion: Christmas, Valentine's Day, my birthday, our anniversay. but every time the day passes by with nothing (well, the usual gifts and celebrations, but no ring and no proprosal). It's almost getting so it ruins the holidays for me. Even though I try really hard not to get my hopes up, I can't help it. Maybe it's all those commercials for jewelry stores on TV, and the radio. Does anyone have any advice on how I can stop hoping and expecting? I don't want to bring it up to him b/c I don't want to sound desperate, and I really am OK with waiting. It's just that the disappointment is getting tough to deal with each time there's a holdiay...
from anonymous6 answersDo you think it's OK to "settle" for someone as a spouse, as in,...show more
he's not the man of my dreams, but he's a good man, would be a good father, we get along OK, etc. ? Or do you think a woman (or person) should wait until the love of her life comes along? Which is more important, finding someone to spend your life with and learning how to love them truly, madly, deeply, or waiting until you find that special someone who really makes your heart race, taking hte risk all along that you may never find them and end up settling anyway?..
from anonymous6 answersI do not know what to do. I was looking for some documents on our family computer...show more
and found some porn that my husband obviously downloaded. It's not that I mind him watching porn, but it bugs me that he left it there, mixed in with all the other stuff on the computer. Do I have the right to ask him to take it off? I mean, in effect it's like asking him to "hide" his porn habit (if it is a habit) which makes it seem like I disapprove. But at the same time, I don't want to see it! Is that wrong of me to want him to keep it under wraps?..
from anonymous4 answersSex with my husband is great, and I really love the intimacy we've developed...show more
in our years of marriage, but I also really miss the urgency and excitement of a sexual relationship with someone new. I never feel that anymore. i am not going to have an affair or anything, I'm just wondering if anyone has managed to regain that feeling in a long term relationship, or if I just have to resign myself to the fact that that part of my life is over...?..
from anonymous8 answersMy boyfriend recently proposed to me, and we're getting married next spring....show more
in the meantime, he wants me to move in with him. But I've read that couples who live together before getting married aren't as successful in their relationships as those who wait until after they are married to live together. What do you all think?..
from ScarlettO (30-somethingfemale)2 answersTo those of you who are married or in an LTR, what special connection rituals...show more
or routines do you and your spouse or partner have? Do you keep a standard "date night"? How do you carve out together time while juggling the myriad responsibilities of adulthood and parenthood (if you're a parent, that is)?..
from anonymous3 answersi am getting married in the spring, and we are having a big, pretty formal wedding....show more
There is going to be a jazz quartet and dancing. However, my fiance doesn't want to take dancing lessons. He doesn't know how to dance, not really, other than just doing the junior-high-school-slow-dancing thing where you drape your arms around each other and sway back and forth. I would really like us to do a "real" dance, like the foxtrot or whatever, but i can't convince him to go to an actual class and spend money and learn how to do it. Any tips? I do not want to be standing out there for our "first dance" just swaying around like we are listening to Time After Time in the gym, you know?..
from anonymous3 answersMy husband is a chronic dreamer. In the seven years that I've been dating...show more
or married to him, he's had no fewer than six major projects that he's embarked on - I don't mean, like, building a doghouse, I mean starting a business, deciding to write a comic book, inventing some new invention and trying to get it into production, etc. He throws all his energy into these projects, starts out all gung ho, and then peters out at some point. Some times he spends money on them - one of his ventures was starting a real estate website, and so he bought the domain name and webhosting and graphic design for the site, and has been paying for those for over a year but hasn't done ANYTHING with the business in about ten months. All of his ideas are more or less good ones, and any one would probably meet with success if he could just follow through, but he seems incapable of that. In the meantime, he's working two part time jobs and we own rental property so we get rent income, but we barely have enough to make ends meet AND we have no health insurance b/c he has no f/t job. Now he's got a lead on a new potential gig, editing some guy's blog that will eventually, hopefully turn into a print magazine. Apparently there's good money in it and a good opportunity to really establish something for himself, but it feels like I've heard that party line before. So I'm just about out of patience with this. Iv'e talked to him about finishing a project before he starts a new one, I've told him I can't support any more new ventures unless something gets finished or resolved, but each time he gets a new idea it's like he gets all starry eyed and can't see sense about how this fits into his pattern. Each time it's "different." What do I do? I don't want to be unsupportive, but I can't keep getting my hopes up each and every time that this venture will be the one that sticks and makes us a bundle of money, only to have him flake on it a couple months later, while we're still poor w/no health insurance. Does anyone have ANY advice for me? It would be much appreciated...
from javajunkie37 (teenfemale)
So my girlfriend proposed to me informally, but it was perfect. The ring she...show more
gave me is actually a lucky horseshoe with diamonds in it. I am so in love with it because it fits me so well. I guess my question for you is if any of you have engagement rings that are not with the "norm" and what is your story behind it?..
