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Marriage Questions
from ScarlettO (30-somethingfemale)2 answersI'd love to hear everyone's opinions on the genders and their ability...show more
to multi-task. It seems to me that whenever I ask Mr. O to do something, he can only do it if he is focused solely on that one thing -- even if it's something relatively simple, like folding laundry. He can't, say, read a book to the kids (not even if they turn the pages!) while he is folding laundry -- something I consider an easy juggling maneuver. I'm usually doing at least two other things at the same time. So how about y'all -- either your husbands/partners, or you if you are male? Is it harder for men to multi-task? Or is it just harder for my man?..
from anonymous3 answersMy issue was my concern with something my boyfriend said over the weekend. I...show more
am 48 and he is 54. We've been together for 18 months. We got involved very quickly during his separation from his ex wife. She left him after 28 years for a lover. She never worked, so he has to pay a hefty amount of $$$ for spousal support which just adds to the insult of the divorce in the first place. ....But what is amazing is how compatible we are and how wonderful it is we found each other through the personals. We love each other and things are mostly great between us.....But out of the blue over the weekend, he said how because of the awful way his marriage ended (and ongoing payments to the ex) it has left him with the feeling that marriage is a cold, business-like transaction involving a contract. He said that it no longer seems like a spiritual pairing of two people in love. He basically was saying that as long as it feels that way, he wants no part of it. -- Well, you can imagine how that made me feel. I didn't say much when he said that. We've never discussed marriage as it still seems too soon with his divorce becoming final 3 months ago. But I felt like it was a message to me that he was never going to marry me. ....Later that day, he was super sweet and nice to me (like he sensed that he had made me feel bad). I feel I need to address this in some way. But not sure how yet. I don't want to pressure him. I wasn't even planning on talking about marriage at this point yet. Sheesh.....Anyway - anyone have any words of wisdom or similar experiences out there for me??....Thanks!..Vote:
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0%Just get out now and don't waste any more time.
100%Give him a chance. He is still hurting over his divorce.
from katieanddanny (teenfemale)3 answersSaturday night my boyfriend and I are in bed kind of in the middle of being intimate...show more
(at that point we were only kissing) and he tells me he wants me to be his wife, then asks me "will you be my wife?" of course I said yes now I know that its wasn't THE actual proposal but it was just so nice to hear and later on I asked him if he was being serious or if that was just a "in the heat of the moment" thing and he said he was serious...BTW...he's 30 so I highly doubt he was just saying that to say it and we are kind of trying to get pregnant (we're not doing everything to get pregnant but we're not protecting it at all and we'd be ecstatic to have a child together)....When I asked him if he was serious we weren't being intimate or anything and then later on in the night when we were laying down he said that he again that he was serious. We thought I was pregnant last month, the baby would have been due in May and we had agreed on getting married next in Oct. 2009. So we kind of planned it before he even asked me that night.....What do you guys think about it?..Vote:
from anonymous1 answerNot long ago I heard something on the radio about a guy who's been married...show more
to his wife for 38 years and he said he was still as infatuated as ever...my first immediate thought was "B.S.!" I mean, you can be in love, and love the person as much as ever, after that amount of time, but infatuation? That's not how relationships work, you know? You lose the infatuation stage, because you can't function that like that all the time, and you wouldn't want to, and then you eventually get comfortable with each other, and that's a different kind of love but it sure ain't the same as infatuation. I think that anyone who says that infatuation w/their SO is still going strong after 38 months, let alone 38 years, is either lying or delusional. what do you say?..
from ScarlettO (30-somethingfemale)2 answersMarrieds/LTR couples, what was the last argument you had about? I mean a real,...show more
knock-down drag-out, not-talking-to-each-other, door-slamming, going-to-bed-angry argument, not just a spat over whose turn it is to walk the dog. How did you resolve it?..
from anonymous7 answersMy fiancee and I are planning our wedding, and already she is getting out of...show more
hand in terms of the cost. Her parents are not in the picture, and we'll be paying for the whole thing ourselves. Unless we get into major debt (which with the economy the way it is I am really unwilling to do, plus we will need money to start a family) we are not able to afford very much, but she has these grandiose dreams of having elaborate food and all-night open bar and flowers up the yazoo and a really super expensive dress and all that jazz. how do I tell her without bursting her bubble that we cannot afford the wedding of her dreams?..
