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My husband is going on a business trip in January and I'm already worried about it. THe last time he went away for work, I think he had an affair with a coworker while they were there. I dont really have any hard evidence, just a "feeling". Call it a sneaking suspicion maybe. I don't suspect them of doing anything here in town even though she lives here too, my husband is always at home when he says he will be, and I just don't get that sense from him. I thnk what happened is they just had too many drinks and ended up in bed together, I don't think it's an "emotional affair". But they're going to be away again in jan and I'm a little worried that it'll be a repeat performance. I don't want to confront my husband about the last trip, b/c if it wasn't anything serious I don't want to make a big deal out of it. BUt I sure don't want it to happen again and I'm really nervous about him going, What should I do? Should I mention it or is there something I can say that will let him know that I "know" and somehow deterr him from doing it again? Any ideas?..

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from Angie

(40-somethingfemale)

I wish u would have given more concrete reasons why u'r so sure of ur suspicions before answering this .....
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No hard evidence, just a "feeling" is really not enough to go on but I do believe that when ur SO is different u do sense it...I'm just afraid you might be jumping to conclusions about it being an affair when it could be something else...Has he ever had an affair before? Has he become emotionally/physically distant towards you?..How's ur sex life?..Has he started become secretive about things he was never secretive about before?....
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I'd think you need to talk to him about your concerns in a non-confrontational, non-acccusatory way (if that's even possible at this point ... you sound so sure even having never talked about it or having any evidence?)..
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If it were me and I was as sure as u sound ... I'd probably just go direct ... Honey I'd like to talk about a feeling I've had, I know it'll make me sound insecure but (then package the "have you had an affair" part)..

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