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You do need to find out how important a detail the Asperger's is. If it's part of the cause for his compulsively contacting these women, then it will be easier for you to understand and forgive -- if not for him to stop. If it's coincidental, however, then you need to be prepared to give him some ultimatums: either he stops this behavior cold-turkey, or he loses you. Forever. ..
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I would start by seeking out an Asperger's support group, either on line or in person, and trying to gather some more information on its potential complications. Right now I don't think you can trust what your boyfriend is saying, since his actions are speaking louder than -- and in contrast to -- his words. That might be a problem in and of itself, but you'll figure that out later. For now: learn as much as you can, give your BF the benefit of the doubt in the meantime, and be sure to make any decisions informed ones, not impulsive ones. Best wishes!..

Forgive my ignorance, but is this compulsion part of his Asperger's? or related to it in any way? If so, then you need to forgive him and move on. However, it might well be (and I'm sorry to be so cynical) that this is just plain old crappy behavior and he's chalking it up to his condition. You need to find out the difference, and then you can go from there. I think you also need to learn a little more about his treatment plan. Any way you can talk to his therapist - not about him, since there are confidentiality issues, but about whether or not this issue could be caused by the Asperger's. You might also want to pursue therapy WITH him, so that the therapist (whether the same one or a different one) can help you work through this and address your needs as well as his. You should also try hooking up w/other partners of Asperger's folks on line - support groups and so on - they should be able to help you and listen to your concerns. Good luck to you both!..

There is a link between OCD and Aspergers, and if he was in the habit of doing this before you it may be a hard thing for him to break.....
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We see how people, who don't suffer from some medical condition, let their online activities get them into hot water with their partners and despite the potential impact, they continue ... now add to that OCD and it must be near impossible ..
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I'd guess it would take some grave measures and drastic changes in their day-to-day activities to break the habit of :..log into computer; check email; answer email; read news; login to all dating sites listed on; check email; take a glance at the pretty girls; send an email; get coffee; do a bit of work; then repeat..
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U say u guys have a great relationship, I'd tell him u're having issues with this and u really don't know how to respond, react or even feel about it all ... since he's seeing a therapist already ask him if you could have a session or two with the therapist who will likely be able to advise..

I thought people with Aspergers couldn't get very close to others. Didn't that girl on Top Model with it have trouble looking people in the eye?..
Frankly, if you guys aren't married, he is technically still single. If you aren't exclusive, he doesn't have to be. I worry about how you "found out" he was emailing and texting these girls. Did you read his e-mail and check his phone? If so, that violates a basic level of trust. ..
Talk to him. If he doesn't want to be in a committed relationship with JUST YOU, then you need to decide if you want to stick around...