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things my girlfriend does that bug me: ..
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finishes the orange juice without replacing it... makes plans for us without telling me... goes on a vacation and marries someone else.....
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uh, no. ..
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I'm sorry you're going through this, but what your boyfriend did is extremely revealing about what he thinks of your relationship, and it seems like it should be unacceptable to you. Also, it shows bizarre judgment on his part. ..
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It will be very painful for a while, but when you can end this relationship and move toward a better one -- one that you're proud to tell your family about -- you will be much happier...

Um, you've been with this guy for seven years and your families still don't know about it?..Is there a reason for this?..Would they have some problem with it?..Either way, it's definitely very odd...Who's decision was it to keep it from your families?..
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And now he's run off and married someone? After seven years with you?..Oh, honey, this sounds bad...It sounds like this guy likes having you around, knowing you're going to be there, but doesn't really want to make a commitment to you...And why would he?..You're giving him everything he wants, to the point where he feels it's okay to hide you from his family and MARRY someone else...
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You need to let this one go...Yes, it's going to be extremely difficult...You say you're in love with him, but are you in love with him, or with what you want him to be?..Break it off...A clean break, no talking, emailing, etc...Then find a good therapist, set up a good support system, and let the healing begin...

I'm the yang to Angie's yin......
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I bet it would be very difficult for him to date a girl in his country without following thru to marriage. I've heard similar complaints from young women attending university here that date men from certain nations possessing much oil...
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They come to study and hook up, cuz the hooking up is sooo easy here. Of course meanwhile back home plans are put in action to marry him off to a nice clean, virginal girl (not like those western women)., and because he really can't go against the wishes of his family, he goes thru with it. He leaves the girl here in tatters and life goes on. He's kept you a secret from his family for a reason, they would never accept you. You've been played my dear...
Regrettably...
-Carlos..

"...i feel my..life has now meaning without him...."..
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this is the part that makes me sad ..
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and the key to your answer to this experience you are having...if your life has no meaning without him then that is something you need to address...how can you give to a relationship if your have nothing to live for on your own?..once we are more whole alone we can hope for deeper meaing within a realationship...i know it's hard but look deeper at your dreams and aspirations apart from being in a realtionship, and happiness will flow from your individual fulfillment...Look around you, is there a woman in your life you respect and/or admire?..a mentor of sorts....perhaps you can look to her for a model of what you could be doing...
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best to you..

Okay, you're kidding me. He MARRIED SOMEONE ELSE and you're even considering FIGHTING FOR HIS LOVE...
No one gets married without thinking. It doesn't happen. (Well, I take that back. Britney Spears got married in Vegas, but that got annulled.)..
If he got married in another country, is it even a legal marriage in the US? And why on earth after seven years would you not tell your parents you have a boyfriend. If he loved you, and wanted to be with you, then he would have said, "Mom and Dad, I cannot marry this girl even if you betrothed us when I was 2 -- because I'm mad in love with my girlfriend in America. We have been together 7 years and I want to be with her for all my years."..
If he doesn't have the balls to say that, I don't think this man is worth fighting for. I think your life will have plenty of meaning without him...