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Dating > from nnr3334 (20-somethingfemale)6 answers
Dumped after 3 years. I met him when I was a freshman in college. I actually...
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from Angie (40-somethingfemale)
What I'm going to suggest is harsh but I think these steps will serve you best ... ..
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1..Cut off all communication with him, no seeing, calling, emailing, texting or stalking him online, delete him from ur tel., chat list, friends on facebook & the like..
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2..Call ur closest friend, tell her/him u need their help to get over this hurdle..
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3..Get rid of all reminders of him, if u can't throw them completely put them into a box & storage..
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4..Tomorrow's Thursday ... make plans to be doing something everyday for the next 2 weeks ... and I don't mean wandering around places u used to go with him...I mean do new things with new people (or old things that u once enjoyed)...Exhaust urself if u have to...Join the gym, take a dance class, volunteer, get a second job ... do something to keep urself occupied...
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5..Don't date til ur ready but everyday primp yourself and dress, like u ARE (dating)...
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6..After 2 weeks, allow urself to think of him for 5 mins, if u start to cry, go back to #1..
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from kathyartist2008 (40-somethingfemale)
As someone else said, sometimes you have to have your heart stomped on in order to be able to fully appreciate a beautiful relationship that is truly reciprocal. Life is bittersweet. And yes, we've all been through similar traumatic experiences. When I went through being broken hearted by a man, I told my friends I was going to treat it as though he died. I didn't want to talk about him, if my friends saw him out somewhere, I didn't want to hear or know about it (cuz he was "dead'..you know) It really helped. I had NO contact with him and just tried to live my life knowing he was not in my world anymore. In time it got better...
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from Angie (40-somethingfemale)
Just thought about a variation on the "volunteer or get a second job" ... you know what?....
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If your desperate and can't find things to do fast enough ... go to the most popular and busiest coffee shop in your area and talk to the owner/manager ... tell them you'd like to volunter your time ... and whatever tips u make u want to donate them to ur favorite charity...
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A few hours in the evenings or on the weekend pouring coffee, smiling at people, people smiling back at you...Hearing Please, Thank you and you saying u'r welcome from a few hundred people will lift ur spirits ... not to mention how many people you might meet just by them asking ... You're a volunteer here?..
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from kauaigirl (30-somethingfemale)
The exact same thing happened to me and almost destroyed my last year of college. Although it may seem harsh,..I totally, totally agree with Angie...As trite as it sounds, time will heal your wounds... Good luck...
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from cobo (30-somethingfemale)
What stood out to me from what you wrote was that when he needs to eliminate something and streamline his life, he eliminates you. That says to me that he does not value you. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately it seems like most everyone needs to have their heart stomped on at least once so they can eventually realize when they've met someone who treats them as they deserve to be treated. Angie had some great great advice, I couldn't put it any better. So, just more of a pep rally for you: You deserve someone who values you and wants to keep you around, not someone who sees you as a liability complicating his existence. i promise, you will get through this, and you'll be stronger and wiser for it. Good luck...
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