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Are you friends with any of your exes? If so, is the friendship actually working with no problems? Has this made it harder or easier for you to get over your ex? Is there any jealousy involved? ..
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from ScarlettO (30-somethingfemale)
Not currently, but I have been friends with some of my exes. In fact, one of my old roommates was a former lover -- that was kind of weird. We'd broken up just after renewing the lease on our apartment, but we decided to keep living together as we were quite compatible. It worked out OK, because we were both committed to the situation and wanted to make it work, but that's not to say there wasn't a fair amount of jealousy and strangeness. In my own experience, the ability to remain friends with an ex is inversely proportional to how much in love we were. That is, with more casual relationships, it was easier to segue into being friends afterwards. But more intense love affairs necessitated a complete break, lest the jealousy and emotional entanglements prove too difficult. But I wholly support anyone's attempt to stay friends -- after all, you put all the time and energy into getting to know someone, why waste it?..
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from 24atlovesdoor (20-somethingfemale)
this is a ver difficult place to be. I was friends with all of my exes. but i will speak as of late. first of all, we waited almost a year before we even attempted contact and hanging out, let alone being friends, but eventually it led to that. it was really really fine and felt totally platonic and it was nice, because it was a success. This success was short lived though becuase no matter how hard you try to avoid it, those feelings DO come back., but instead of love and happiness like you felt prior it comes in the form of confussion, lonliness, jealousy and paranoid. EVEN when you were not ever a jealous of paranoid person IN the relationship, somwhoe it has never failed me afterward, and..you never feel more lonely then when you finish a platonic movie with a platonic ex. lol now that i have depressed you enough, i will say, there can be an up side. ..
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you just both have to have EXACTLY (or close) the same intentions in the relationship for it succeed...
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from Akitosan (20-somethingmale)
This is only because none of my breakups have been angry or hurting ones, but I am still friends with all of my exes. In fact, one of my closest friends is one who dumped me after two months. =P..
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It really depends on how things ended, and how things were before you started dating. If you hardly knew them, and they left throwing lamps and such at you, probably not a good idea. But if you were friends beforehand, and the breakup was more of a 'this just isn't going to work' non-angry sort of thing, there really isn't a problem. There might be a few awkward moments here and there, but they are far between...
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As long as neither party is bitter about the breakup, it really shouldn't be too much of a problem...
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from bm9913 (teenfemale)
I am still best friends with my ex...It has been a bit tough to move on, but I knwo it will happen and I knwo losing him as a friend woudl be terrible...I definitely recommend being friends with an ex...Mine was there for me through so much and helped me grow and be a better person, so why woudl I not want him to stay in my life?..
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from Rose (teenfemale)
.....i am friends with my x. but its weird and hard to do. there is a lot of jealousy. and it is hard to make it work. but the best thing to do is to just put it all behind you! like forget you guys dated and work on being friends...
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