Here's that question

This is my take. Until you find that one person that's what dating is. A series of match ups that do not match up. ..
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However, don't despair. If you believe in love, and I do, you will eventually find someone that does match with you. Then you will look back at all the mismatches before and thank your lucky stars they did end up as break ups. A good marriage is wonderful. However, a marriage between incompatible people can be hell...

As wonderguy said, there are some happy marriages out there. My own parents were happily married for over 45 years before my mom passed away. They were pretty crazy about each other and would tell us kids at various times how much they loved the other. They respected each other, enjoyed each other's company and both had the same sense of humor. But get this, they were married 11 years before having kids. They thought they couldn't conceive, adopted my older sister and then my younger sister and I suprized them. So I think during those 11 years, they really got to know each other and bond deeply before the distraction of babies and raising kids...

I'm the yin to Carlos' yang .....
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Here's my thinking, No, break-up isn't inevitable BUT change is ... A good number of relationships fizzle out, drift apart or fail because one or both parties don't adjust to the change...Much like most living things, a relationship can't possible stay the same, no matter how much love and good intention is there...It's just the way it is ... but does that mean we should stop doing it ... and doing it whole-heartedly?....
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I often hear and read about people who are of the mindset of "why should I bother putting myself out there - I'll do bare minimum"..Well imagined someone offered you a fantastic business deal and you decided to ONLY invest 50% ... could you realistically think you'd be entitled to get anything more than 50% of the profits?..Nothing ventured nothing gained...Angie..

Anything worth finding is worth looking for. Is that the cliche I'm trying to quote? Anyway, it's not easy. But if you do want that prize, keep trying, take notice of what seems to work better for you in a relationship, what you are drawn to, eliminate what doesn't work from your search, and not only will you be closer to finding someone, you'll be wiser...

you also know that some significant percentage of dating relationships do lead to happy marriages. ..
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So it's like starting a business: over 90% of new businesses fail... but does that mean no sensible person would start a business? No -- it means that you have to take a risk to get a reward, even if the reward is unlikely. ..
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Also, maybe more importantly: Just because a dating relationship ends doesn't mean it was a failure or a mistake. I've had numerous committed relationships that ended, sometimes very painfully for me -- but I truly don't regret any of them. They helped me grow up, learn how to be in a relationship, etc. ..
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But the bottom line is that if you want to have a long-term committed relationship, you have no choice but to endure the painful breakups along the way -- unless you have an arranged marriage or you believe in love potion #9. ..
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So you have no choice -- you may as well jump into it, earn your emotional scars, and eventually find what you're looking for...