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I've just been dumped y my boyfriend, not because he doesn't want to go out with me anymore but because his mother told him to stop seeing me. He's 20 and he's in college. Surely he should be old enough to make his own decision. He's an only child and his father is not in the picture. Should I just leave it go?..
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11%Approach his mother
11%Tell him to read baffld
78%Leave it go, he's too much of a mommy's boy
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from cobo (30-somethingfemale)
Yeah. I say, bullet dodged. If he's the type to break up with someone because Mommy said so, it's only going to get worse from there. Onward and upward!..
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from hugnkiss (30-somethingfemale)
Wow. Do you even want to be with this pansy mama's boy?..
Does he live with his mom? Why is he just doing what she wants? Or is he a total wimp who is using mommy as the lamest reason ever to break up with you??..
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from gvsushaver (20-somethingmale)
Not to steal Carlos' line, but I'm here to share a guy's perspective. ..
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From the sounds of it, it seems that your ex comes from a very sheltered and swayed household. I would not be surprised if his parents are divorced and he grew up with his mother. This has nothing to do with the a relationship that Sigmund Freud says is between a mother and son but rather a perspective that a mother's advice is greater than one's own personal beliefs...
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There is a stage in every person's life where their decisions and thoughts begin to outweigh the suggestions and ideas that their parents have. Obviously it seems that your ex has not made this choice and is far from becoming his own person...
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Since he is still in school (and probably being paid for by his parents) he is still very dependent on them. Unfortunately, I haven't found a way to get a person to be independent. It is their and their choice alone to take the first step. All in all, I say let it go. In a few years he may change..
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Good luck..
Matt..
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from JackOfHearts (20-somethingmale)
I basically agree with everyone here that you're better off without this boy, but I'm curious about why his mother told him to stop seeing you. ..
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For example, if he's Chinese and you're not, and his mother desperately wants him to be with a Chinese girl... I don't agree with his decision, but his mother's position is more traditional and familiar. ..
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But if there's no half-decent cultural or religious reason, and his mother just doesn't like you, your boyfriend's behavior is even worse...
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from beachgirl (20-somethingfemale)
Here's the thing -- if your boyfriend really wanted to be with you, nothing anyone said or did would have stopped him...If it was that important to him, he would have stood up to his mother and stayed with you no matter what...
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Yes, he is a mama's boy, which is a problem. But the bigger problem (sorry!) is that he's probably just not that into you...Find a guy who will stand up to his mom, AND realizes your amazingness....
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