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So recently, after a two and a half year relationship, my girlfriend's best friend told me I was being cheated on. I had already given her a second chance--two months into the relationship she'd made out with another guy--and according to the friend, there was an ongoing relationship with this other guy. I'd met him--he was a family friend of hers. I had voiced my misgivings on more than one occasion, each time being met with anger and indignation at being accused of something like that. Finally, her friend gives me the validation I've feared for so long. My now ex-girlfriend denies the entire thing, sticking to her guns and staying angry that I've accused her of anything. Still, sounds clear cut, right? Wrong. Turns out this "best friend" of my ex has had a thing for me for a long time, and she's chosen the weeks since the breakup to come forward with it. So now my question is...Did she make it all up?..
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58%She cheated, you made the right call.
42%The friend made it up...live with it.
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from Angie (40-somethingfemale)
What's ur gut say?..I'm always learing of so-called "best friends" that rat out friend, to me there's always a hidden agenda...And lo and behold, she's got one ... a big one ... she's had the hots for you lol...
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Ok first things first,..the exgf, did u have any concrete evidence of her 2nd time cheating?..Anything beyond her bf telling you?..If so, then u made the right decision...If not, then there's a possibility that the bf might be feeding off ur insecurity in this relationship to get her foot in the door...
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Either way tho, I'd say u should take some time in between getting over being deceived (or feeling like there was always the possibility) and starting a new relationship with the friend.....
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She's waited this long to come clean with her true feelings for u that..I'm sure she can wait a couple of months so you can get your head together...
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As for the ex, if u feel it might be true then you've kinda lost the trust in that relationship anyway so try avoid looking backward..
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from ScarlettO (30-somethingfemale)
Stay away from both of these women, unless you have a burning desire to meet Jerry Springer...
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from lookuponmyworks (teenmale)
Your ex actually started the suspicions by first cheating on you. She shouldn't be surprised when it bites her in the ass later. Stay broken up with her, with no trust your relationship is over no matter what you do...
As for the friend, you may as well sex her. At the very least, it will piss off your ex, although you may not be the vengeful type...
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from albatrosstango (20-somethingmale)
I don't think your ex's friend made it up, but what's done is done, you can't trust her anyway so it's best to just move on (in my humble opinion).....
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If I had to guess, I'd say your cheating ex is from Martinsville, IN...
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from cobo (30-somethingfemale)
It's hard to say. Did you have reason to suspect before that great friend of hers stepped in? Seems odd that you were together that long and wouldn't have had any previous indication that she was fooling around, but I'm sure that kind of deception has happened in many other relationships before. But I think you might be better off avoiding the whole situation entirely. Maybe the truth will eventually come out, maybe not. If after time apart, you find you really miss your ex, it might be worth revisiting...
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