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I got married about three months ago and I already see it was a huge mistake. I think I got swept upp in the excitement of a whirlwind romance and whirlwind wedding (we only met and started dating about seven months ago, I mean, we really moved fast) and now I am regrettign it. My wife is smothering me -she is trying to be the perfect bride and take care of me, down to the point of nt letting me get up to get my own Coke, she jumps up and goes to get it for me. and we really don't have that much in common. Should I ttry to make it work, because I took the voews? or should I get out now and let us both get on w/our lives?..
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14%admit you made a mistake and get divorced
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from Carlos (40-somethingmale)
Get out. The faster the better...
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I'm going to tell you that her sort of response might indicate that she's feeling it too, and as many women do, she's trying hard at pleasing you in the hopes that she might be able to fix , or at least dilute whatever ails your marriage...
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This is supposed to be the sweet spot in the marriage, if you are looking for the door at this point , I can safely say the the odds of it getting better are slim to none. By all means take all precautions not to have children. The only alternative if you think it is fixable is to seek counseling...
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from Angie (40-somethingfemale)
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Ya I agree with everyone here, if you're feeling regret now after 3 months of marriage and 1 year of being together, I'd say it's not a good sign...The fact that she's dotting on you isn't that bad, altho u may not be used to it, she's trying to set the pace and hasn't figured out what you like and don't yet...So she's eager that wouldn't be enough for me to write the whole thing off, but YOUR regret on the otherhand is something entirely different.....
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People who get married, even those who dated a long time, usually are in a kinda bliss for a bit afterwards, having sex all the time, making their new home homey, having sex all the time, having guests over, having sex all the time, reliving the pre wedding and wedding day memories and did I mention having sex all the time.....
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So you need to talk with her about..how you feel and I wouldn't dwell on the "coke delivery" excuse because if someone said that to me I'd say that's an easy fix. ..
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from hugnkiss (30-somethingfemale)
You promised her 'til death do you part. You should at least make an effort. Tell her you want to take care of her. Tell her to relax...
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Give it a little more time, you did marry her. And maybe with your next wife, date a little longer before you pop the question...
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from msulik (20-somethingmale)
TALK to her. It might fix this opt-out issue. But you need to have open communication and honest discussion. She's acting ridiculous but there are two sides to every story too...
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from BlueAyez (50+female)
I'd say talk to her first. If she's young or inexperienced she may feel she made a mistake as well. ..
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If it's not "buyer's remorse" and you truly don't love her I say get out before children are involved. Just be honest and tell her the way you told us. Believe me it's a lot easier to do it now than if you have a child...
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I'm pretty sure you can get an annulment instead of a divorce...
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