Practise makes perfect ... so let him practise enough, eventually he'll get the hang of it...I'd stop the mothering thing asap cuz YOU are setting the wrong dymanic going into a marriage.....
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Ok let's get specific for a sec, let's say his job is to stack the dishwasher & he packs it in differently than u do ... u, with all ur years of experience has armed u with the knowledge that if stacked it properly u fit more in there & u'll even save time in emptying ... if u put all the forks, spoons and knives in their own slots u can just grab a bunch & slide them into their respective slots in the cultlery drawer.....
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BUT does it REALLY matter????..The dishes will be just as clean when he finishes (both runs cuz he didn't stack in as much as you lol)....
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If you say something about it, he'll think I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't...
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So give him the info he needs if he's never done something before but once he does it, don't be negative or re-do the job cuz he'll give up (rightly so..

Pick your battles and hold your tongue for better missions lol .....
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was my point in the 1st part, if you start criticizing his efforts, as little as they may be, he will not see the point of pitching in...Especially in an activities he somehow got to this point in his life never having or feeling the need to learn, he'll likely end up resenting you.....
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Remember he's not looking for a mother, a maid, or a drill sergent ... in marrying you...
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So let him do his part, the best way he knows (or figures) out how ... and be happy with his results...You're starting what will hopefully be a long life together and what he doesn't know he'll learn over time...
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He's a guy ... tell him you've got enough energy left to do ONE more thing in the house tonight ... him or the kitchen floor ... ask him to pick lol.....
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Angie..
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I'm the yin to Carlos' yang .....

Ah, this brings to mind the old parable about the monk teaching a man to fish. Or was it a man teaching a monk to fish? Or was it Jesus teaching the masses to fish? At any rate, the moral of the story is that if you give a man a fish, he eats for a day. If you teach a man to fish, he eats for a lifetime (although I'm guessing that he'd get pretty sick of fish after about a week, and you maybe should've taught him how to make Thai food instead). So, that's what you do: you teach your man how to do laundry, load the dishwasher, dust the ceiling fan, match up his own socks, boil water for his Ramen noodles, bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan. Show him once, be available for a consult in the future, but don't -- repeat, DO NOT -- do it for him. You'll have to suffer through the learning curve (putting up with mildewy laundry or baked-on, caked-on) just as he will. But in the end, your efforts will have been worth it. Laundry for a lifetime! That's what I'm talkin' about, brutha...

There was this great article in the New York Times last year that tells how training a reluctant husband is similar to training (sorry here) exotic animals! The title is: "What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage". ..
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Here's the gist of what the writer says: "The central lesson I learned from exotic animal trainers is that I should reward behavior I like and ignore behavior I don't. After all, you don't get a sea lion to balance a ball on the end of its nose by nagging. The same goes for the American husband."..
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Anyway, here's the URL -....http://www.nytimes.com/2006/06/25/fashion/25love.html?_r=1&scp=1&sq=shamu&st=cse&oref=slogin..

My SO is pretty slow at most stereotypical "housewifey" things. It takes him hours to cook a simple meal, he never does dishes, never picks things up around the house, etc. My advice would be patience. Although it is frustrating, try giving him "goals". I often suggest to my man that I would really appreciate some help cleaning-say, the bathroom. It takes him 2 hours, but I do see improvements-especially if we clean together...
I also have to constantly remind him that his food is not going to burn if he cooks it on "medium" instead of low. I think he is learning by example, too. Sometimes when he is late for work I'll whip him up a meal in 10 minutes. He sees me cooking and has started to "learn" from example. Try cleaning together, too...
Also, cleaning can be overwhelming even to the "experienced". If he truly has no experience in these domestic realms,..he needs advice and pointers!..
And drop the "mommy" talk. That's..not going to help him "like" chores. He may even feel insulted...