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My boy and I have been together for 3 years and although neither are particularly religious, we know we want..to get married. He was my first and I only his second and we've discussed the fact that if we do get married, for our entire lives, we'll have basically only have had sex with each other. We've discussed the idea of being with other people (with each other's knowledge) before we get married and while we are both open to the idea I'm not sure if either could go through with it...
Is it stupid to only be with each other? Is it stupid to "try" before we commit to each other? Anyone have similar experiences?..
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from TinK (teenfemale)
Its not wrong to think about things like this. I have only been with 2 people. I had my first when I was sixteen. I wish I would of waited because I found the man I have been looking for a couple months after. He is the one I want to marry and there is nothing wrong with that. I just happened to find him early :). If you are scared of being resented down the road, try and keep things spicy and don't do the same routine. You don't have to invite other people when you have the makings of a great sex life already. If you please your man and he pleases you then why do something you might regret. The grass isn't always greener on the other side...but if you both discussed it and thought it would be best then you can try it out and make your own judgement...
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from hugnkiss (30-somethingfemale)
There's a movie, I'm blanking on the name -- but it's the same premise. The boy and girl are happy and living together. But they decide to have sex with a few more people. And then basically, their lives fall apart. ..
If you love him, and you like having sex with him, then why would you want to have sex with other people who don't know you, don't know your body, and don't know what you like. Unless, of course, perhaps the two of you really don't connect in bed. The thing is, this might kill your relationship. Because one of you might find someone else they like being with better. You up for that?..
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from bm9913 (teenfemale)
I think if you guys really love each other then not having sex with other people shoudl not be a problem...It is perfectly natural to wonder what you are missing and wonder if you shoudl act on it, and that is totally up to you, but having each other is what matters...I mean, if you can both have sex with say one other person and neither of you guys have a problem with that, then that is your decision...But being with and having sex with the same person is not that bad...I was with a few other people before settling down with the boy I love and trust me, meaningless sex is nothing and you are not missing out on anything!..
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from anonymous
Why do you think you want to be with other people?..Just because you think it's "weird" to only have been with each other?..Tons of random sex with people you don't care about can be fun, but it's not as fufilling as a good, solid relationship...
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That being said, I feel like it's not about having sex with other people, but maybe that you guys are missing something else from each other...Are you really sure you want to marry this guy?..If you're already thinking that you might want to have sex with other people before you get married, you might want to ask yourself if you're ready to be committed...
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from rubbsdecvik (20-somethingmale)
There are plenty of studies that show that sexual satisfaction is correlated with a healthy relationship...Dating other people will only show you how you wish you had stayed with the one you love, and in doing so will ruin your relationship with them...Doing something like dating others might create resentment toward each other...I wouldn't suggest it...
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