There's a lot of pressure i'm sure ... 25 ... 2 kids ... works hard to keep that good job, all could be affecting his libido but none so much as ... and i'm sorry to say this but a) u brought it up and b) it's often the case ... he's not AS attracted to you (as he might have once been) ... and if you gained a lot of weight ... that is probably the reason why...
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Oh that hurt me to write that ... but I didn't know how to say it any other way than bluntly (sorry)...NOW what to do about it ... you obviously weren't always the size u were so it's not so hard to imagine that he likes the old sized u ... better.....
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U're young, so it'll be easier, now don't go crazy, but u can do something about this...Proper nutrion, exercise, cutting back on calories, no snacks, take the stairs, lots of water, do situps & the like right at home...
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Make it a mission, to get back to ur normal size.....
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U'll be happier and feel better about urself, bonus, I bet hubby's libido will quickly return...
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Ang..

Is there any possibility that he's clinically depressed, or just simply stressed? So much of sex drive starts in the mind, and if there are problems sizzling in the ol' brain pan, it's no wonder that the nether regions aren't responding. I know Mr. O has some bouts with depression, and when he's feeling bad he's not into feeling me. Stress can take a toll on the libido, too...
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Regarding your weight gain, it might help you to feel sexier -- which might in turn make him feel more aroused-- if you lost weight. But if you are happy with where you are, weight-wise, then please don't knock yourself out trying to diet for his sake. That's not a good way to go about a relationship...
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Most of all, I'd like to encourage you to talk to him. He might be dying to talk about the problem, too, but be feeling shy. If you bring up the subject, he'll probably be very grateful and perhaps the two of you together can come to a solution...

I don't know that your weight is really the problem. It's not like you gained weight yesterday, I'm sure it slowly developed over time. The real issue is pinpointing when the dropoff began and see if that is what is at the root of the problem...Was it after you gave birth? Sometimes men look at their wife differently after they become a mother - looking at her almost as if she were his own mother and then the sexual feelings begin to diminish after that as it feels almost "incestuous" to them. Therapy would help with that. Also, you'd need to work on changing your image in his eyes to become his "sex object" once again...
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Sometimes simply being married can freak a guy out too and kill his libido because of all the pressure of being the man of the house and bread winner. Sort of like he's becoming his father and all the responsibilities involving that (again - mom and dad were not sexual to us as kids). All kinds of head trips can take desire away while still loving you. Get counseling...

Hi dear..
I quite understand your plight but i want to ask,have you tried asking him what the matter is rather than concluding,it may be the stress of the job or your getting fat,it can be any thing underneath the sun.Call him and get intimate with him.Find out if you are the cause for his lack of sex drive at his age he is okay sexwise but something is going on and you need to find it out fast.Please visit myblog at www.maritalroundtable.blogspot.com and you will learn a thing or two..

My boyfriend too when he is stressed out losses his libido big time. I've thankfully learned it has nothing to do with me. So I just patiently wait for him to get over whatever it is that stresses him out...