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Angie and I have a yin yang thing going....
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There is a disconnect here somewhere, you both love porn, anal sex, toys etc... cuz you both benefit from them together... I don't see any reason for her to actively participate in the swingers site, if she's not in to it.....
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See I'm guessing that she' either very shy and hesitant about swinging, or she doesn't know how to say NO to you. ..
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You have two choices , you can bully her into doing something she doesn't really want to do, but clearly you do... or if you think that it's strictly shyness then talking it out and putting her at ease with what might occur is key...
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Try to find a couple that appeals to her (not you), explain to them about her hesitation and newbie status, and then meet for drinks, just drinks to see if you guys hit it off... if everything goes well, make a second date etc.. ..
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Since you're all adults each of you knows what the final goal is and at some point you'll close the deal, or move on. It is important to talk to her...

Im the yin to Carlos yang .....
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I wouldn't, there's a certain amount of special kind of trust required in order to play in that arena, u may be risking that by going around ur wife's back in setting this encounter up without her knowledge...Ask her if she'd like to meet up with them, how she envisions the set up and if she wants u to orchestrate it...If this is something u r doing together, don't alienate her...
angie..

Since you like porn you know that in one of those movies the husband would set up the accidental meeting you're talking about, the wife would act all flustered, then eventually they'd all have sex...Sadly, this is real life and not a porno...Maybe she would be into it if you set it up to look like an accident...Or maybe she'd hate you...The safe thing to do is to forget it and go back to doing other things you both like...The dangerous thing is to go ahead and set it up and take your chances...If all the other couple is gonna do is make a pass at your wife, then I think you might be able to get away with it...